Abandon hope. It takes you out of the present. The only reason to hope is that reality does not meet with your approval. And reality is a massive wall to throw yourself against.

Abandon despair. It’s just impatient hope with an inflated sense of self-importance.

Abandon resistance. The only reason to resist is a belief that some previous state (which was, most likely, imaginary anyway) is preferable to the alternatives. Everything changes, so you may as well flow with it.

Abandon striving. It’s just impatient resistance with an inflated sense of self-importance.

Curiosity is a double-edged sword. There’s an anxious curiosity that collects information like stones and uses them to build a solid ground to stand on, a wall against confusion and uncertainty. There’s also a wild curiosity that flings itself into the world and encounters everything, fresh and willing.

Then the pernicious charm of Italy worked on her, and instead of acquiring information, she began to be happy.

-E.M. Forster, A Room With a View

When in doubt:

  • Go for a walk beneath the trees and listen to the wind.
  • Cook a meal from scratch and listen to the sizzling, popping, steaming.
  • Sit in a quiet room and listen.
  • Treat a friend to coffee/tea/liquid alternative for no reason but to listen.
  • Listen.
  • Listen.
  • Listen.